In Matthew 11 verse 19 the religious elite were condemning Jesus.  Matthew 11 verse 19 says, "The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, 'Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and "sinners." ' But wisdom is proved right by her actions."  See, they were calling Jesus a glutton and a drunkard because he was hanging out with the sinners.  But Jesus points out that we should not jump to conclusions when it appears someone is breaking our rules and personal convictions but rather we should look at the outcome of their actions to see if what they are doing is right or wrong.  Some Christians think we are sexual perverts here at this web site but the truth is we are trying to help married couples. 

Jesus goes on to explain that God is not so much interested in us keeping rules as much as God is interested in us being loving and merciful to others.  Jesus says in the next Chapter in Matthew 12:7, "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.   What Jesus is trying to teach us, is that the way to be holy and please God, is not by keeping a set of rules or making self-sacrifices but rather by showing love and mercy to others.  Jesus said that if we would understand this, we wouldn't condemn the innocent. 

Man-made rules make it difficult for people to get saved because people think they will have to live by the rules in order to get saved. God does not want to make it difficult for people to get saved. This is why Jesus said in Matthew 11 verses 28 to 30, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

And the elders and Paul did not want to make it difficult for people to get saved either, and so they said in Acts chapter 15 verses 19 and 20, "It is my judgment, therefore, that we should not make it difficult for the Gentiles who are turning to God. Instead we should write to them, telling them to abstain from food polluted by idols, from sexual immorality, from the meat of strangled animals and from blood."

In Romans chapter 2 verses 1-4 Paul condemns those who judge others. In the middle of condemning those who judge others, Paul makes a profound statement in Romans 2 verse 4 when he says, "Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you toward repentance?"

This verse holds the secret to how God changes the lives of people and why we as Christians should not interfere with God's process. Paul is saying that when we judge others, we "show contempt" to God. When we judge others we short-circuit God's plan for saving people. Paul says that God's plan for saving people is that God shows them kindness and tolerance and patience. Paul says God's patience and kindness and tolerance leads people to repentance.

We don't want to be the reason people don't get saved. When we judge people for things God does not judge them for, we may be keeping them from becoming Christians.

We hope Christians will see that this website shows mercy to married couples by helping them have this anonymous forum in which they can share stories.  And God does not want us to judge this web site simply because it allows stories that conflict with our personal convictions, but rather we should only condemn the web site if it breaks rules that God has set in the Bible; and we can assure you it doesn't.  We hope you will give the web site a try in your marriage and we pray it will be a blessing.