What does the Bible say about erotic material?

From my study of the Bible, there are four times or situations when you should not read or watch erotic material.

The first kind of erotic material we should not have anything to do with is when the erotic material took immorality to produce.  For example if it's a movie about a married couple having sex, but the actor and actress are not married, then they are committing the sin of fornication in front of the camera.  God hates sin and it took sin to make the movie so we should not like the movie; since God doesn't approve of how the movie was made.

The second time we should stay away from erotic material is when the story or movie has immoral situations such as sex before marriage or cheating during marriage.  For example if the movie or story is about cheating on your wife, we should not want to watch it.  God hates sin and if the story promotes or condones sin, we should stay away from it.  Also Paul said to not talk or joke about the immoral things that people do.   And so, Christians should avoid erotic material that shows are talks about immoral conduct.

The third time we should stay away from erotic material is if it causes us to wish we could have sex with someone outside of our marriage.  

We believe that a husband and wife should never read or watch erotic material alone.  Erotic material causes an increase in sexual desire and the temptation to focus on the object in the erotic material is real.  

We believe that if a husband or wife finds himself or herself in a habit of secretly reading or watching some erotic material, they should tell their spouse about this problem.  In this case, the husband and wife should try to find some moral way to have fun together to take the place of the secret sexual activities.  

Listening or reading together at night, moral erotic material, such as reading together the “romantic” and “passionate” stories at MarriageRomance.com may be a way to help the spouse overcome secret sexual habits.

There may be times when a couple should cut back on the use of moral erotic material such as the stories at MarriageRomance.com.   Let's assume that a husband and wife are using the “romantic” and “passionate” stories from this web site, in their marriage.  And let's say they look forward each night to reading or listening to them together. Eventually this activity is going to get old and they will want to move on to something else. Why?  Because the couple, is using sex as a substitute for having a purpose in their life.

Anything that is excessive takes the place of God.  Click here to read about this.  

When people do not have a purpose for living, they seek out activities to fulfill this void in their life.  This month or year it may be underwater scuba diving, and the next month or year it may be tennis, and the next month or year it may be jogging or triathlon marathons and so forth.  

Some people may find this web site exciting and become very attached to it for a while, because it is another activity they have discovered and it gives them new joy in life and helps fill the void of not having a purpose in life.  Eventually they may become bored with the site and move on to something else.  We want married couples to look at the site as a tool to use in their marriage for stressful evenings and special occasions.  We want the married couples to have a balance in all areas of their marriage because this way they can serve God better and be happier.

While many Christians say they have a purpose in life, many don't actually end up finding out how to serve God in a meaningful way.  So they end up with faith without works, which is not fulfilling at all.  And so they end up filling their lives with activities to keep themselves happy, just like everyone else in the world.

The key to your happiness lies in understanding your purpose here on earth and then setting your priorities to match your purpose.  This will give you a new perspective on life and make you happy as you serve God in a meaningful way.

For example a Christian wife, who stays home with the kids and is a good helper to her husband a good mother to her children, can feel very fulfilled if she understands that this is a very meaningful purpose in life, because she is serving God by helping her husband and raising kids to love the Lord.  It is important in this case that her husband encourage her and remind her about how thankful he is for her and for all she does.

Please click here to see what the goal of a Christian marriage should be.

Please click here or here if you do not know God your creator.  Without knowing God your creator, you may find a purpose in life, but after you die you will find out that you wasted your life fulfilling a purpose that had no eternal value.

Please understand the “passionate” writings on this web site are not for everyone.  We do not advise married couples to read them, if the next day, they cause them to think over and over about the sex they read in the story.   In such a cases, we encourage the couple to read the “romantic” or “heartwarming” stories instead.

The purpose of this web site is not to get married couples oversexed, but rather provide them with a tool they may use for special occasions and stressful evenings, to add passion to their marriage.

We strongly advise single adults, and married persons when they are alone, to stay away from erotic material.  God says to "flea from temptation" and we agree!  

On the other hand, God wants married couples to enjoy their sex life and so we see a place where moral erotic material can be honoring to God when used in the marriage bed.