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How to deal with her rebellion
HOW TO DEAL WITH HER REBELLION
If you do nothing = no response, she'll feel rejected, unloved, uncared for, and worthless. Otherwise, you'd take the time to constructively, biblically deal with the problem. Ignoring the root cause, or denying it, will only make matters worse!
• Establish rules and expectations within the home. It is unrealistic to expect anyone to live up to a standard that has not been established and clearly explained.
• Sometimes, it is enough to counsel her with a biblical lecture and a rebuke. Sit down and do a bible study together dealing with the issue at hand. If she does not heed this, you must go for another option. Pray afterwards with her.
• Try to make the consequence relate to the offense. Temporarily taking away privileges such as TV, phone calls to friends, car keys, credit cards, special favorite snack foods, outings with friends, computer time, grounding, entertainment such as special videos, bowling, window shopping, garage- sales, exercise classes... Writing out Bible verses relating to her behavior, making a study outline on it, reading an appropriate devotional, writing in her journal... Pray afterwards with her.
• All the above are assumed to be handled with love, calmly, not in anger. Always pray after a counseling, correcting, or chastising session. Pray for God to guide and direct you both. Deal with misbehavior, before it escalates. A marriage does not need to be ruled by emotions, but by God's Word.
HOW A HUSBAND MAINTAINS HIS AUTHORITY
• You have two choices. Cope with a mediocre and basically unhappy marriage. Or, confront and correct issues as they arise, and enjoy a wonderful marriage
• Lead by example. Be submitted to the Lord. Spend time with Him.
• Since all authority flows from God, not maintaining relationship with God breaks down the chain of authority.
• Learn to establish important rules: not too many at first. Concentrate on a few important areas at a time, and add new ones as needed.
• Set limits, and be prepared to be tested.
• Create and carry out instructive consequences, both positive and negative.
• Be consistent with your word and your actions.
• Put an end to bickering: this undermines your authority as her husband. Stop the argument. She will be inwardly relieved.
• Do not correct her in anger. Calm down first. Stay in control of your emotions. This is much easier for you than for her.
• Take care of her heart. A woman who knows she's loves and appreciated will find it easier to submit to her husband.
• Maintain frequent lovemaking. Talk to her about your love life. Take time to let her share her feelings about your love life.
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