When a young man is dating a young woman, he buys her flowers, calls her from work, plans dates, looks at her when she talks, notices how beautiful she is, listens intently to her stories, and does other things to show her he cares for her.
Once married he progresses, not digresses. Instead of buying her flowers, he shares his complete income with her. Instead of calling her from work, he comes home to her each day. Instead of planning dates, he plans to live his life with her. Instead of giving her affection, he gives her sex. Instead of just looking and listening to her when she talks, he feels a greater responsibility for her and tries to solve all her problems.
Once a man has attained his goal of marriage, he no longer wants to focus on repeating the things he did to get there, but instead is focused on what it takes to stay there.
What he doesnt realize, is his wife still needs and wants all that attention and pampering that he gave her while they were dating.
Ideas taken from What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know by John Gray Ph.D.