My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We discovered recently that he has developed cancer due to over 20 years of smoking. I have always been a non-smoker. My original belief was that it was his choice to smoke, and as long as he didn't smoke around me (I didn't want 2nd hand smoke) I would just have to learn to accept it. I now wish I had told him my true feelings. It might have made a difference.