I am in the same situation, my wife had an affair and is in love with this other man she works with. They have only met 2 times 1 of which they were sexual together. I pray daily and I am following God the best I can, I sit up reading my bible for guidance until I fall asleep, I am back in church now and living for God.
I was not the best husband, sometimes I was rude to her and I was always playing games on the computer. I took her for granted and just knew she would always be there until it was to late and now she wants out. The guy she is in love with hasn't called her or even talked to her during this because he is also married with 2 kids the same age as mine; he cheated on his first wife with the woman he is married to now. Me and my wife have a 4 year old and a 2 year old, I love my wife so much and it's taken losing her to see how much i really do love her. When me and her were happy we were very happy, and we share alot of the same interest she feels we have grown too far apart to work things out and she says "I love you but am not in love with you" she is not even willing to try to work things out, I offered to give us a 6 month trial marriage where we both work as hard as we can, and I will find out in 9 days if she wants to do this or not. I need help as to what to do now? How should I act during these 9 days? I need all of your prayers and I will pray for you all as well.
Comment by: Old Site
Date: 2/9/2013 7:49:47 PM
A reader says ... I strongly recommend going to the website for Family Life Today and getting some of their resources on dealing with infidelity. My wife and I have mentored other couples in this situation and have found that no challenge is insurmountable. Most recently, we dealt with a situation where the husband was unfaithful with three different women, but they got past even that. Now, they are doing great and even have a new baby.
There is no single right way to deal with this kind of wound to a marriage -- except to pray humbly and constantly. In keeping with James 1:5-7 and Ephesians 1:17-21 pray for divine wisdom and revelation. I will pray for you as well.
A reader says ... Wow I would hate being in your situation. I'll pray for you. Just keep loving her and being nice to her.