Comment by: Old Site Date: 2/9/2013 7:49:50 PM
A reader says ... i agree with the above person..God is not against you having fun and enjoy sex.he did make eve for adam.. and he told david after he sinned..that he would have given him more wifes if he wanted more..more wives equal more sex..lol.and you know he had more then one at a time i've read that lesbian sex is never condemned in the OT and only condemned in the NT if they reject the natural use of the man..so as long as there is a man involved. i think women using dildos or vibs on each other would be crossing the line since it useing something to replace the male member. what we need is to build loving and caring marriages where one spouse cares more about pleasing the other then themselves that way the one should give the other permission to enjoy themselves
A reader says ... Editor: Thanks for your questions. Sorry I had not answered your question in our discussion groups section. I'll try and answer your questions here.
Please note it's a bit late tonight so I'm going to try and answer this from memory and not look up each scripture reference to back up my thoughts.
My wife and I had similar concerns also as have other subscribers here. My wife and I agree that as Christians we should try and find story lines that are not cheating or homosexual etc, but rather reflect sexual situations condoned or at least allowed by God.
In my searching the scriptures in the past it seemed that watching videos of sex where you are not sure whether the partners were married is sort of like - in the New Testament - eating meat that you bought at the market place that had been offered to idols (it was cheaper than other meat). Paul indicated that the origin of the meat was not important and so Paul indicated that it was ok to eat meat offered to idols unless you were inviting your Christian brother over for dinner and you knew that he would be offended if he ate the meat offered to idols.
So the sinful origin of the meat offered to idols was not important but rather how the meat was used - as non-sinful nourishment - that is what was important.
In a similar way it should be ok to watch an erotic video even though the couple in the video is not married, because what is important, is how the video is used - to help a pure marriage relationship - that is what is important.
The other observation is that God never really condemns sex between consensual single adults in the Bible. In the Old Testament, only sex with a virgin and sex with a married woman were condemned. Sex with a prostitute was strongly discouraged but not outlawed. But men could have sex with unmarried woman and concubines and additional wives - there was no law against consensual adult hetrosexual sex.
In the New Testament Paul teaches we should not have sex with prostitutes and "Sexual Immorality" is condemned. But "Sexual Immoraality" is never defined and so we have to look back to the Old Testament for a definition. And in the Old Testament there is no law against sex between consenting non-married adults.
Well I pray you will have wisdom in your thinking. Like you said it is the purpose of why you are using the videos that I believe is important. Since you are using the videos to get sexually excited so you and your spouse can have better sex, I would sure think God would approve of it, if having better sex helps you both to be better servants for Christ.
At times it sure has helped my wife and I in our marriage. We thank the Lord for the great sex and I'm sure it has helped us be better servants for Christ.
One caution is that we all need to be very careful that watching erotic videos is not illegal where we live. And even reading or listening to stories on this web site might be illegal in some countries and/or states.
Also, I strongly discourage subscribers from accessing our web site while at work. I don't want anyone to get fired for visting our web site at work.