My husband and I decided early on that he would be the head of our home. He wanted to lead us and I was more than glad for him to make those decisions. When our wedding night came, I expected for us to finally make love. However, my husband simply to took us to bed, saying that it had been a long, stressful day and that we needed to get some rest. Confused though I was, I contented myself just to sleep next to him. It was three days before he felt we were ready to consummate our marriage. It was perfect. We were so relaxed that the joining was effortless. We have made love many times in the past five years, but that first time remains the best. We were not stressed about having to perform for each other, we were able to concentrate solely on each other and our union.