My bride and myself are in the middle of our wandering in the wilderness. Prior to marriage we resolved to not have sex but pushed the limits on it as far as absolutely possible without losing our "virginity". I realize now how much grief we have brought into our lives as a result of our actions but I can not change the past. Today we are struggling with letting go of the guilt and anguish that comes from sexual stimulation. I believe Christian parents really need to start teaching their children about sex from an angle of love and not fear. I can only imagine what it must be like for a person who grew up in an overly sexually repressive household. I also think that premarital counseling needs to address that sex for the first time will not be like what you see in movies. Somehow I convinced myself that because my wife and I waited it would be a symbol of perfection. Sex is just like going to the gym. You don't walk in the first day and grab the biggest weight and look like you know what you are doing. You have to wander around the gym, feeling stupid and like you don't belong. After a few months you're just like anyone else, a seasoned pro with your entire workout planned in advance. Keep fighting the good fight my fellow believers. It is an ever worthy struggle.