The way to have a happy marriage again, is to love each other the way the "Love Chapter", I Corinthians Chapter 13 verses 4 to 8 teaches us to treat each other.
Let's read the verses.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails.
Have you ever thought about how a young couple treat each other when they are dating? I Corinthians 13 verses 4 to 8 describes how a young man and a young woman act towards each other while they are dating.
But what do you do, when you are married and your mate does not meet your expectations and gets mad and is not nice to you?
Well you know they say, "love is a decision". God says it this way in Galatians 5:16, "So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh." What are the desires of the flesh? Getting angry, mad, getting even and the list can go on.
What does live "walk by the Spirit" mean. I believe it means be obedient. Love your mate.
Notice. It does not say, "God will control you and make you walk in the Spirit." Rather it is an imperative - "walk". That means you have to do it. So obedience is the key, not "let go and let God".
So how do you be obedient and "walk in the Spirit"? Well since God tells us to love our neighbor and obviously our spouse too, and in I Corinthians 13 4 to 8, God gives us a definition of how love acts, then all we have to do is act the way God tells us to in the "Love Chapter".
We need to be patient with our spouse, we need to not be envious of their successes, we need to not say we are better than them, we need to always honor and respect them, we need to look out for their interests first and then ours, we need to not be easily angered by them we need to forgive and forget past faults they have had, we need to not be happy when something bad happens to them in fact we need to be sad and compassionate when something bad happens to them and we need to always protect them and stand up for them, we have their back, we need to be consistent in the way we treat them, we need to always trust them and always hope for the best and for the future with them and we need to never give up on them and always be their for them and be dependable for them.
Life is all about our perspective. Remember when you were dating your spouse?
When you were dating, how did you handle a problem or potential issue? You engaged in a meaningful loving conversation with your date. You treated each other with honor, not pride - all the things in the "Love Chapter". So why not try that now. Why not find out what troubles each other. Why not engage in loving meaningful conversation about each other - about what each of you needs to forgive each other for; about what you could each do to make the other happy. Why not compromise like you did when you were dating?
The key to a happy marriage is to love your spouse the way God wants you to, and treat your spouse like you are dating again.
Were you thankful for that first date with your spouse? Probably so.
If couples would be thankful for each other and all that God has given them, all their problems would fade away. Think about how blessed you are, you have each other, you have your family, you have your job, you have health, you have so much to be thankful for - why not enjoy life and enjoy each other. Why not start afresh!
So I encourage you to be happy for all your blessings - especially your mate!